Fear, shame and loneliness are way more dreadful than AIDS itself. I salute the queers fought for human rights with their lives in 1980s and those supprted them bravely. Boys died in London are witnesses and victims of their time. Be yourself is never a sin.
There are three types of people who, as you say, "flash cheese": people who don't know any better, people who are seeking to intimidate, and people like me, who wish with every fiber of their being that someone would try to take it from them.