他的神情舉止絕不像七八十歲即使他有一張備受摧殘的臉而一旦他唱歌、演奏“it just all came back as sort of a wonderful image again.Then I just forget about the age ahd the change of his looks.”
After Bob's death, Fern chose to stay, being houseless - "If I left, it'd be like he never existed," she said, "I couldn't pack up & move on". Some who suffer from loss feel guilty about survival & regard recovery as a betrayal. The pains they cling to is an expression of loyalty. They need time with emotional support, not blame for being stubborn.